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Why men fail to control arousal

January 18th, 2010 | Author: Dr. Amber Waves

While some men are able to control their physical and mental sexual arousal, there are others who can”t do it. Now, a new study by University of British Columbia researchers has explained why it is so.

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How can we keep things hot?

December 29th, 2009 | Author: Dr. Amber Waves

Q: My guy and I spend lots of time away from each other. How can we keep things hot?

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A: Internet sex can keep you primed for each other. It can be as simple as IM’ing and creating sexual fantasies together to masturbating together. Now there’s even “tele-dildonics”: You plug your sex toy into your computer, and your boyfriend can log on to the Internet and control it for you remotely (or you can control his).

To make Internet sex work, you have to find the mode of communication you’re both comfortable with. If you’re visual, that might be a Webcam; if you’re not, try audio (Yahoo! IM has an audio and video component). If you prefer writing, think about whether you’d rather flirt back and forth, build fantasies with IMs, or trade stories via e-mail.

One of the reasons Internet sex is great is that most people take more risks online. Once you can talk about sex on the Internet, you become better at bringing things up offline. Say you send an IM saying, “I’ve always had this fantasy about balloons in the bedroom.” Your man might be thrilled his girlfriend is kinky. So the next time you bring up your fantasy in person, instead of giving you a strange look, he’ll simply ask, “What color?”

Regina Lynn, sex columnist

How do I get active during in sex?

December 3rd, 2009 | Author: Dr. Amber Waves

Question: During sex I just lay there not doing any thing it was good and all but I want to know what way to move and how to pleasure my man.

Answer: Fist of all, its good to play a while first. just make out then with your tounge just slide down his body, suckin on his nipples just kissing. Then, you get down farther, kind of tease him by licking softly and kissing then you can start sucking. When your sucking, play with his balls, rub him with your nails. They LOVE it when you keep sucking when there cuming. They Loovee it. Work your way back up. Being on top is good because you are in control and it drives him mad. Keep kissing. He’s hard – so kind of tease him let the tip of his penis enter you barely at all then out again do this for a couple of times when your ready let him inside you. Once hes pretty much in, slide your hands under his butt. When he starts thrusting hard, push him with your hands so he can go in even deeper. Wrap your legs around him and get as close as possible. After sex, his head his sensitive, but he will love you to play with his balls and massage him. Just be close.

Try different styles!!

Make sure he pleases you not just with the sex but other things!